Have you seen the memes showing a sad looking kitty and the words “I have the sadz,” or something similar? I think I could make a meme with my picture and those same words because I have the sads.
My cats are fine. Larry is fine. I am fine. But people in my pet community are sad.
Over the last few weeks, several of my Facebook friends have lost pets, including an orange tabby just 10 years old to cancer and a German shepherd who fought lymphoma with bravery for 17 months. And some friends’ pets are failing in health.
These are other people’s pets. Why am I sad? I have people in my life who don’t understand my sadness when a Facebook friend, one I’ve never met in person, loses a cat.
The sadness is not as great as if I was losing one of my own. But it’s a deep sadness nonetheless, and I think I feel this way for three main reasons:
• I’ve been through the pain of losing a pet, and I know it can seem unbearable. It hurts to think that people I care about are experiencing that pain.
• The loss of any life—a small kitten, a senior cat, a mighty dog, any of our animals—changes the world. That life changed the world by being here, and that life changes the world when he leaves, in even small ways, ways we don’t recognize.
• I am reminded of the mortality of my pets and my own mortality.
The only way I have figured out to deal with the sadness is to try to show my love and support to those suffering. I remember how the expressions of love and concern when I’ve lost pets helped me more than I would have thought. Just knowing you’re not alone, that others have walked down a similar road, is comforting.
So I have the sads right now. But I am try to remember what my sweet kitty friend Chester used to tell his Facebook followers: “Hug your loved ones.” Yes, hug and love our loved ones while we can.