Wednesday, August 17, 2016

When you get the sads



Have you seen the memes showing a sad looking kitty and the words “I have the sadz,” or something similar? I think I could make a meme with my picture and those same words because I have the sads.

My cats are fine. Larry is fine. I am fine. But people in my pet community are sad.

Over the last few weeks, several of my Facebook friends have lost pets, including an orange tabby just 10 years old to cancer and a German shepherd who fought lymphoma with bravery for 17 months. And some friends’ pets are failing in health.

These are other people’s pets. Why am I sad? I have people in my life who don’t understand my sadness when a Facebook friend, one I’ve never met in person, loses a cat.

The sadness is not as great as if I was losing one of my own. But it’s a deep sadness nonetheless, and I think I feel this way for three main reasons:

I’ve been through the pain of losing a pet, and I know it can seem unbearable. It hurts to think that people I care about are experiencing that pain.

The loss of any life—a small kitten, a senior cat, a mighty dog, any of our animals—changes the world. That life changed the world by being here, and that life changes the world when he leaves, in even small ways, ways we don’t recognize.

I am reminded of the mortality of my pets and my own mortality.

The only way I have figured out to deal with the sadness is to try to show my love and support to those suffering. I remember how the expressions of love and concern when I’ve lost pets helped me more than I would have thought. Just knowing you’re not alone, that others have walked down a similar road, is comforting.

So I have the sads right now. But I am try to remember what my sweet kitty friend Chester used to tell his Facebook followers: “Hug your loved ones.” Yes, hug and love our loved ones while we can.



14 comments:

  1. Yes, I totally understand. Being part of the Cat Blogosphere means being part of a community. We get to know other cats through their stories and pictures. When they hurt, when they pass on, we feel it too. Some more than others.

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  2. We tend to become friends, via these blogs and comments, and we hurt when our friends are hurting. Sometimes, it seems as if all the bad stuff piles up together, and there is no end in sight. I understand your sads; WE understand!

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  3. I totally understand! A FB friend had to let her pup go yesterday and I feel so heartsick! That on top of so many others ...
    My girls help. They help a LOT. To hug them, watch their silly antics, walk with them, play with them, laugh with them.
    Sending hugs from all of us.
    KZK

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  4. guys...tell yur mom it iz sad......we get sadz when we see R bloggin buddeez moove on two heaven.....itz knot easee on de familee.... ore de friendz... & sum times ya get ta "noe" de online friend{s} sew well, itz like ya hurt just az bad az they due ~~~~~ ♥♥♥

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  5. It is always sad when someone we care about is going through a bad time. Caring is never wasted or wrong. It is sad that not everyone understands that. Hugs.

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  6. Having empathy is a good thing - even for someone you've never met in 'real' life.

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  7. I agree with Lisa... empathy helps us connect to our humanity. Just make sure that you don't let that sadness become overwhelming, so that you can appreciate the wonderful life that you have!

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  8. I understand completely. I have the sads too, so many kitties in the Cat Blogosphere have passed recently too and one blogger wrote of some friends who had to leave 7 cats behind in a flood- I am afraid to read if they survived or not.

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  9. We totally understand. Just because you haven't met someone in person doesn't mean you can't feel sadness for the loss of their pet. We have learned to love these kitties that we've met through blogging.

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  10. We understand too. There has been so much sadness in the pet world this year. I think when we follow blogs we get to know the pets better than the people, when they pass or are sick, it is devastating to us too, even if they aren't ours, they FEEL like ours and we also desperately hurt for their owners (((hugs)))) catchatwithcarenandcody

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  11. You are so right. Our pet-blogging friends are wonderful, and we are always sad when their pets have to go to the Bridge. In some cases, it feels like we have lost one of our own.

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  12. It is always sad when someone loses a pet, so I completely understand where you're coming from. I have been brought to tears many times for a pet that I have never met and their human that I have never met. This is a wonderful community to belong to. It's very supportive and loving.

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  13. I am so sorry for the losses that your friends have suffered. I understand you feeling sad, too. We don't have to have met someone in person to understand that they are hurting and that we care about them, so we are hurting, too.

    You're all in my prayers. Have a blessed weekend.

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  14. I understand that completely. I feel the same way when those I know have to bid farewell to their fur family member, even if I've never met the pet myself. It does bring back memories and you know just how much it hurts. What a lovely heart you have, Tina.

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